Jimmy Titchener was the dearest and best man I've ever known. I treasure all the letters and postcards I received from Jim and Kay over the years during their travels, mostly written by Jim in his distinctive decorative handwriting. Works of art in their own right. I treasure memories of slow attentive walks with Jimmy around the garden, the one in Grey Lynn, the one at Snells Beach. Seeing them in Melbourne not long after I had my first child, I still have the dark blue ceramic bowl they gave me then. Us all playing in a pool with my sons when they were small in their friend's place. Big jumps. Over and over. That was a special day. Memories of dinners at Bernard's restaurant. A plate of artichoke leaves beautifully arranged in a pattern. I mentioned that image when we saw each other in Warkworth, last year: I’d remembered it as being Kay’s handiwork but it was Jim who'd carefully positioned each artichoke leaf to make a circle. Dinner with Jim and Kay on my 22nd (or was it my 23rd?) birthday, again at the Artichoke. A black and white photograph (If I remember rightly) of Jim standing in a doorway, was included in a book about the protests against the Springbok tour of 1981. I must get that book one day, I thought. I never got around to it. I keep finding my to-do lists from the last few months with 'Ring Jim and Kay' written on them. Regrets, I have a few... If Jim had a shadow side, and I suppose he must have had 'cos we all do, I never caught a glimpse of it in all those years. The same goes for Kay. Jim’s love for me, and Kay’s, and mine for them, is unambiguous. I’ll just say it – pure. Vale, Jimmy, my dear, dear old friend. It was such a privilege to know you.

Kay. I am so sorry. I didn’t know about Jim until Asphodel sent me a text. I know it has been a long time but it was a shock. Those years way back were really significant ones for me. I have always has this nagging thing in me that I should have kept contact. You must be devastated. All my deepest sympathies.

Dear Kay I was so sorry to hear of Jim's passing. Unfortunately I couldn't make it up today but enjoyed listening to the stories shared. It was a lovely send off. Beautiful flowers. Sending you all our love from the Waikato, Megan, Logan, Gabe, Finn and Elza x

Thank you for being my friend. Kind thoughts and love to Kay and the extended family. I apprcieateg joining you at the service on line. Love Margaret

So sorry to hear of Jim's passing. Our apologies for not attending but David unable to travel. Have let Albert and Evelyn know. Our thoughts are with you

Kay, I am so sorry to learn of Jim's death. He was a good and dedicated man. I pray for you to experience God's love and comfort at this time. My thoughts and prayers also are for Ken and Lois, Heather and Alan and Frank and Shelley. I know that Jim will be sorely missed. Ruth